Breaking the Silence – Navigating Men’s Mental Health Challenges and Offering Support

Breaking the Silence – Navigating Men’s Mental Health Challenges and Offering Support


There are many stereotypes of masculinity. Men are supposed to be strong and emotionally resilient, but these persistent ideals have shaped expectations placed upon men for too long. Instead, they’ve fostered a culture that tends to discourage men from expressing their vulnerability and emotions because “real men” should be stoic and unyielding. All of this directly affects men’s mental health; breaking the silence around it is a pressing imperative.

Societal and cultural influences perpetuate the myth that men seeking help for mental health struggles are weak. These ingrained beliefs have profound consequences and contribute to the alarming rates of undiagnosed and untreated mental health issues among men. It is time to recognize the need to dismantle barriers and foster an environment where men feel both empowered and encouraged to be open about their mental health. Ultimately, achieving this will pave the way for happier and healthier lives for everyone.

In this article, we’ll address the complexities of men’s mental health. We can start to break free from some of the constraints of societal and cultural influences and relieve some of the pressure that men experience that influences their reluctance and delay in seeking help for mental health. Talking about men’s mental health transparently is essential to reduce stigma. It also emphasizes the need for everyone to recognize how there is more room to be more compassionate.

How does stigma affect how men relate to mental health challenges?

Despite advances and improvements in our overall understanding of mental health, men experiencing mental health challenges often suffer alone. Stigma creates additional complexity when people struggle because they often experience “discrimination, avoidance, and rejection.” (1) It has many facets, including “social (public) stigma, self-stigma (perceived), professional stigma, and cultural stigma,” which create “extreme barrier[s]” for seeking help.(2) Many men fear being seen as less masculine or weak, which can build feelings of inadequacy and worsen their self-esteem. Stigma can influence men’s choices towards less healthy coping mechanisms like aggression or substance use to help them deal with emotional pain. Some men tend to be more comfortable focusing on physical ailments instead, which in turn delays diagnosis and treatment and creates longer recovery times.(3)

From an early age, social conditioning encourages boys to be “strong, independent and emotionally stoic, while girls are expected to be nurturing, empathetic, and compliant.”(4) The long-term effects have men “hide their vulnerabilities and suppress their emotions”.(5)

What are some notable differences in men’s mental health experiences?

The mental health challenges men experience are likely far more common than reported. For example, while depression can affect anyone, regardless of gender, there are differences in how men and women experience and exhibit symptoms. Some researchers have observed that men have more difficulty processing loss and grief over their lifetime. Many life stressors, such as physical illness, financial problems, and relationship breakdowns, become overwhelming and contribute to the manifestation of grief. (6)

Here are some differences to be aware of in how depression may present differently in men and women.

How does this information apply when people identify as Transgender, Gender Neutral/Non-Binary?

It’s critical to approach mental health with an open mind that considers gender-affirming and inclusive perspectives, recognizing that someone’s biological and psychosocial influences can vary widely and may not align with traditional expressions of symptoms of mental health challenges or distress.

  • They may have coping mechanisms that depend on their unique identity and experiences and do not align with traditional gender roles.
  • If they experience gender dysphoria, they feel more intense distress and depression.
  • Their gender identity may influence access to mental health care and supportive services. It can affect their ability to access gender-affirming appropriate treatment. It could “create a profound sense of isolation, as they may feel misunderstood or rejected by their communities.” (9)
  • They may experience chronic stress due to “fear of judgement, discrimination, or violence.” (10)

Mental health professionals need to be sensitive to the specific needs and tailor therapy that acknowledges the impact of gender identity as part of the assistance.

What do studies tell us about how prevalent mental health issues are for men?

The statistics about men’s mental health can be shocking, but being well-informed can help increase awareness of how crucial it is to change the narrative and encourage men to get the help they need.

  • In the U.S., over 6 million men suffer from depression yearly. It is often underdiagnosed. (11)
  • More than 3 million men in the U.S. have panic disorder, agoraphobia, or another phobia (12)
  • 90% of the 3.5 million people in the U.S. who live with schizophrenia are men, diagnosed by age 30. (13)
  • The highest suicide rates in the U.S. are in Caucasian men over 85. (14)
  • In the U.S., gay males are at an increased risk for suicide attempts, especially before age 25. (15)
  • While approximately 1 million Canadian men suffer from major depression yearly, only 30% use available mental health services. (16)
  • 80% of Canadian men have spoken with a healthcare practitioner in the past 12 months as of June 2023. (17)
  • Canadians were more likely to prioritize their physical health than their mental health. However, while nearly 1/3 of women selected mental health as a top priority, only ¼ of men noted the same. (18)
  • 26% of Canadian men said that if they were feeling down or agitated more often than usual, they would either wait over a year or not make an appointment at all if these feelings arose. (19)
  • 76% of all suicides in Canada in 2019 were by men. 38% (the highest number) were men aged 40-60. (20)
  • While women attempt suicide twice as often as men, men die by suicide three times as often as women. (21)

Suicide disparities for men

Men consistently have higher suicide rates in many countries worldwide, especially in middle-aged and older age groups. They also tend to use more lethal methods that are more likely to have their attempts result in death. Targeting mental health awareness is crucial to help reduce the stigma surrounding seeking treatment for mental health challenges. At the same time, the available services must be accessible and gender sensitive. Family, workplace, and community support are essential in suicide prevention.

What are some beneficial prevention and intervention strategies?

Remember that a combination of strategies may be most effective, recognizing each person’s individual needs and circumstances.

Increasing awareness and accessibility when it comes to men’s mental health, services can work to avoid glamorizing or sensationalizing suicide through more responsible portrayals of men in the media who are dealing with mental health issues. It can also encourage more men to be open to conversations within their communities, families, and workplaces. Education can help us to:

  • Recognize signs of mental health distress and promote help-seeking to destigmatize the issue.
  • Ensure that access to mental health and crisis supports are available, accessible, and affordable.
  • Train first responders, community leaders, teachers and medical teams to recognize men’s unique warning signs and specific risk factors such as excessive or untypical substance use or aggressive behaviour.
  • Be open to developing support networks, social connections and self-help resources tailored to men’s needs and introduce the value of help-seeking and positive coping strategies to build resilience.
  • Create crisis intervention plans for men who are at risk that outline what steps to take in case of a mental health emergency.
  • Restrict access to weapons/firearms, medication, and other lethal means that men tend to access during crises.

Stress reduction techniques and healthy coping mechanisms can help men understand how to detect vulnerable changes in their mental health status rather than waiting for a crisis. For example, there are proven benefits of regular exercise in that it can:

  • Reduce stress, anxiety, and depression.
  • Improve a sense of self, boosting mood, self-worth, and self-esteem.
  • Boost energy and clarity of thinking.
  • Help release beneficial endorphins to clear the body of stress hormones such as cortisol.
  • Be beneficial to participate in collaborative sports teams and avoid ultra-competitive/individualistic sports that build machoism.

Not discounting the value of self-care basics and engaging in enjoyable activities can also prevent crises. It may include quite apparent things but also help with releasing inhibitions that may be holding someone back:

  • Getting restful sleep.
  • Practicing good nutrition.
  • Finding purpose through friends, family, and community involvement to forge social connections and belonging.
  • Speaking with a therapist to explore supports/boundaries and develop resilience. It could also involve joining a peer support group for other men experiencing similar feelings or fulfilling similar roles and obligations.

Encouraging conversations about men’s mental health

Common stereotypes that hinder open discussions about men’s mental health include:

  • The expectation that men should not show emotions, express vulnerability, or ask for help.
  • The belief that men should be tough, aggressive, and dominant.
  • The idea that men must be independent and self-reliant to solve all problems on their own without seeking support or help.
  • The fear that admitting to mental health struggles will be seen as a weakness, failure, inadequacy, or somehow less masculine.
  • The tendency to suppress strong emotions and feelings rather than address them earlier and be more proactive in looking for solutions to pain and promote recovery.
  • The insensitivity of common expressions such as “man up” that trivialize normal emotional responses and promote vocabulary limitations that suppress emotional expression.
  • The fear of being judged by peers, co-workers, partners, or family members if they are transparent about their mental health.

Breaking these stereotypes down helps create a supportive environment to address men’s mental health needs without fear, stigma, or judgment. We must provide safe spaces for men to discuss their feelings and share their experiences openly.

Conversation Starters

While it can be difficult for men and others, starting with an open conversation can be the best approach to take. Consider trying some of these suggestions to start a conversation if you notice someone in your life may be struggling: (22)

  • How are you feeling on a scale of 1 to 10?
  • You’ve been a bit quiet, how are you?
  • How is work at the moment?
  • When did you start feeling this way?
  • How are you coping?
  • Who else can you talk to?
  • What help do you need?

The power of education and awareness

Some prominent men have overcome stigma and sought help, demonstrating that to do so is a sign of strength. Their stories can encourage other men to do the same.

  • 1. Prince Harry has been candid about struggling with grief and mental health after his mother’s death. He co-founded the Invictus Games to promote open conversations about mental well-being and camaraderie for military service people through sport.
  • 2. Comedian Trevor Noah has spoken publicly about his experiences with depression to challenge mental health stigma and promote understanding.
  • 3. Actor and comedian Wayne Brady has shared his struggles with depression and anxiety to encourage other men to seek help and prioritize mental health and well-being.
  • 4. Actor and former wrestler Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson has openly discussed his struggles with depression and advocates for increased mental health awareness and self-care.

We’re also sharing some resources published by the Centre for Suicide Prevention and Mental Health that you can explore. They have been specifically developed for men. (23)

Buddy Up – A men’s suicide prevention communications campaign: a call to action to men, by men
Tough Enough to Talk About It – A program for men working in trades, industry, and agriculture
Man Therapy – An interactive website that encourages men to address their mental health and seek help if necessary
DUDES Clubs – Spaces that facilitate a participant-led community for men’s wellness
HeadsUpGuys – Online information and resources to encourage help among men at risk for depression and suicide
Men’s Sheds – Community-based safe and friendly environments where men can learn practical skills, develop new interests, work on meaningful projects, connect with other men, and talk about their problems
Movember – Information about mental health and suicide prevention

Men’s mental health is not just about individual well-being. It benefits us all by creating a more inclusive, empathetic, and supportive environment. By dismantling stereotypes around men’s emotional well-being, we can help save lives, improve relationships, and promote gender equality. Supportive changes in perception will help break the silence around men’s mental health.


References:

1. Chatmon, Benita, PhD, MSN, RN, CNE. (2020 August 19). Males and Mental Health Stigma. American Journal of Men’s Health. Retrieved August 29, 2023 from ttps://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7444121/

2. Ibid.

3. Duran, Andres, LPCC. (n.d.) How Mental health Stigma Impacts Men. Sage Neuroscience Centre. Retrieved August 29, 2023 from https://sageclinic.org/blog/stigma-impacts-men/

4. Hodge, Kayne. (2023, June 16). Gender Roles and Their Impact on Depression: Beyond the Surface.Mental Health Centre. Retrieved August 29, 2023 from https://www.mentalhealthcenter.org/gender-roles-an…

5. Ibid.

6. Ogrodniczuk, J. PhD. & Oliffe, J. PhD. (2011 February). Men and depression. Canadian Family Physician. Retrieved August 29, 2023 from https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC30388…

7. Ogrodniczuk, J. PhD. & Oliffe, J. PhD. (2011 February). Men and depression. Canadian Family Physician. Retrieved August 29, 2023 from https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC30388…

8. Ibid.

9. Hodge, Kayne. (2023, June 16). Gender Roles and Their Impact on Depression: Beyond the Surface.Mental Health Centre. Retrieved August 29, 2023 from https://www.mentalhealthcenter.org/gender-roles-an…

10. Ibid.

11. Mental Health America, as cited in Anxiety & Depression Association of America (ADAA) (n.d). Men’s Mental Health: Why Men’s Mental Health is Important. ADAA. Retrieved August 29, 2023 from https://adaa.org/find-help/by-demographics/mens-me…

12. Ibid.

13. Ibid.

14. Mental Health America (n.d.) Infographic: Mental Health for Men. Retrieved August 29, 2023 from https://www.mhanational.org/infographic-mental-hea…

15. Ibid.

16. Parent, A. (2023 January 26). Mental health and men: how to support your loved onesI. Canadian Red Cross Blog. Retrieved August 29, 2023 from https://www.redcross.ca/blog/2023/1/mental-health-…

17. Movember Canada as cited in CISION (2023, June 12). New Survey Suggests Positive Shift: Shows Men More Proactive in Managing their Physical Health, Continue to Struggle Prioritizing Mental Wellness. Retrieved August 29, 2023 from https://www.newswire.ca/news-releases/new-survey-s…

18. Ibid.

19. Ibid.

20. Centre for Suicide Prevention and Mental Health Commission of Canada (2022 March 30). Men and suicide. Retrieved August 29, 2023 from https://www.suicideinfo.ca/local_resource/men-and-…

21. Ibid.

22. Mental Health Innovations (n.d.) Talking about men’s mental health: conversation tips. Men’s Health Innovations Charity. Retrieved August 29, 2023 from https://giveusashout.org/latest/talking-about-mens…

23. Ibid.


Compassion Fatigue

Compassion Fatigue


You can feel that you’ve reached a limit you weren’t even aware you had. What you may be experiencing is compassion fatigue.

In this article, we’ll provide an overview of what compassion fatigue is and learn who is most often affected by it and what types of demanding professions often increase the risk/susceptibility to develop it. Compassion fatigue differs from feeling burnt out, and learning the difference between these symptoms can help create better self-awareness. We’ll also share some coping strategies and discuss how to prevent compassion fatigue. This knowledge is vital to help people experiencing compassion fatigue find strength, develop more resilience, and engage in self-care. Fundamentally, it helps us all be more compassionate towards ourselves, as well as to others.

What is compassion fatigue?

Compassion fatigue is a form of stress that someone can develop when they have direct exposure to traumatic events (firefighters, police officers, paramedics, emergency hospital staff) or secondary exposure (child protection workers, helping victimized clients, or hearing clients talking about traumatic experiences) and are focused on helping others through extraordinarily stressful or traumatic situations. The effects of compassion fatigue can result in the person being left feeling exhausted and drained, both physically and emotionally. Often, there is little room for them to take the necessary steps that would allow them to recharge and recover.

Over time, people who assist others, who “are chronically in despair” and who experience “very difficult life circumstances,” are the ones at risk of becoming “profoundly affected and even possibly damaged by their work” to the point that they may gradually experience a decline in their ability to feel empathy and compassion. (1) When that happens, there is a tendency to view the stress from these helping interactions as a routine, psychological “cost of caring.” (2)

Carers may find that they begin to “make excuses” to mask what they are feeling to justify any negative behaviours they are starting to display. Often, they will use metaphors of strength, by saying things such as – “I’ve been doing this for a very long time now, so I know how to manage it” – or – “I stayed up all night helping [this person, so] that’s why I’m a bit cranky today.” (3) The reality is that these act as “invisible badges of honour” that justify how they feel and simultaneously hide the frightening truth that they are losing control. (4) The carer’s view of the world may start to change due to repeated exposure to other people’s traumas as they begin to vicariously feel like the experiences they have been trying to help people with are now happening to them. Charles Figley, who did extensive research in these areas referred to compassion fatigue as “a dark cloud that hangs over your head wherever you go and invades your thoughts.” (5)

Compassion fatigue is treatable, especially when those directly affected, and those who care about them, begin to recognize that the root cause is that they are afraid of how their brains and bodies are telling them that they are not okay. (6)

Understanding who is most at risk

Compassion fatigue is prevalent in high-stress professions, especially roles that focus on using empathy in their pursuit of helping or serving others. It frequently affects people in the following types of occupations and roles:

  • Healthcare workers (physicians, nurses)
  • First responders
  • Psychologists, counsellors, and social workers
  • Educators
  • Community service workers, foster carers
  • Customer service roles

What is the difference between compassion fatigue and burnout?

While compassion fatigue and burnout are similar, there are distinct differences in where the stress originates. People who suffer from compassion fatigue have their view of the world damaged or transformed because of the work they do.

Burnout can make people more vulnerable to compassion fatigue. Burnout is when someone experiences constant mental and physical exhaustion from being in a stressful situation where they feel overworked and unappreciated. Someone with burnout may become cynical, disillusioned, and demotivated because there’s a misalignment between their job demands, responsibilities and what they value.

Unlike compassion fatigue, burnout develops from providing care and support to people experiencing trauma, resulting in diminished empathy and feeling emotionally numb.

How does compassion fatigue affect someone’s life?

Compassion fatigue can have significant repercussions in someone’s life that reach far beyond their profession. They may begin to withdraw from friends and family because they feel emotionally detached from these meaningful relationships. Compounded by their emotional exhaustion and decreased empathy, they can strain connections, leading to misunderstandings that may make them uncharacteristically seek isolation. Ultimately, they may feel challenged to separate the different aspects of their lives, and their “work habits and patterns can become increasingly unpredictable.” (7) People with strong empathy seem more at risk because they are so attuned to the vulnerabilities and suffering of those they are trying to help.

What are some of the symptoms or warning signs of compassion fatigue?

There are several warning signs that someone may be experiencing compassion fatigue. (8)

How can someone learn to cope, recognize and reduce compassion fatigue?

Someone experiencing compassion fatigue needs to recognize the toll of believing they need to stay positive and happy even when a person they are helping’s situation is challenging or worsening. In reality, it’s contradictory and unnatural to do so but there are things to do that can help them learn how to cope.

  • Use self-compassion. Take the time to show yourself the same compassion you would others.
  • Focus on yourself, even for a short time between interactions, to reconnect and ground yourself in your awareness and recharge. That can look like giving yourself ten minutes to complete self-care practices such as:
    • Deep breathing
    • Meditation
    • Prayer
    • Journaling
  • Attend regular professional development and ongoing training, develop resiliency skills, and commit to change.
  • Recognize and feel your emotions so that you can begin to release your thoughts. Allow yourself to:
    • Look for and experience expressions of tension, irritability, anger
    • Tell someone how you are feeling
  • Prioritize giving yourself a real break. Gift yourself:
    • Better work/life balance
    • Vacation time
    • Time for positive expressions of self-care like:
      • Going for a massage
      • Treating yourself to some personal care
      • Watching movies or entertainment
      • Spending time with friends
    • And avoid potentially harmful and destructive forms such as
      • Over-consuming alcohol or drugs
  • Exercise has been proven to affect mental and physical health positively. When practiced regularly, it results in:
    • Reductions in stress, anxiety, and depression
    • Improvements in mood and self-esteem
    • The natural release of beneficial endorphins that help clear cortisol, one of the body’s stress hormones
  • Getting enough sleep allows your body to repair itself during the full range of a sleep cycle.
  • Maintaining good nutrition with food choices and portions that are healthy, natural, and deliver sustenance, plus essential vitamins, minerals, and nutrients.
  • Consider joining a support group for people who have similar roles and professional obligations that make them vulnerable to developing compassion fatigue.
  • Review and rebalance workload and look for ways to increase job satisfaction, self-awareness and limit trauma inputs.
  • Speak with a therapist to help you develop clear set boundaries that will help you both protect yourself and create more resilience.
  • Develop a prevention plan and regularly evaluate to notice and appreciate the changes.

How can you be supportive of someone who is experiencing compassion fatigue?

Acknowledging and understanding that this phenomenon is a by-product of the carer’s role, not simply someone having a bad day, is a great way to help reduce compassion fatigue.

If you know someone who may be experiencing symptoms of compassion fatigue, you can offer help. Educate yourself so that you can recognize and provide support through:

  • Develop appropriate boundary-setting
  • Active listening
  • Compassionate expressions of kindness and connection
  • Being empathetic to them

Organizations can also reduce or prevent compassion fatigue among their staff by offering adequate education, training, compensation, benefits and access to professional help.


References:

1. Tend Academy (n.d.) What is Compassion Fatigue? tendacademy.ca. Retrieved July 23, 2023 from https://www.tendacademy.ca/what-is-compassion-fati…

2. Charles Figley 1982, as cited in Tend Academy (n.d.) What is Compassion Fatigue? tendacademy.ca. Retrieved July 23, 2023 from https://www.tendacademy.ca/what-is-compassion-fati…

3. Cunningham, Amy (2016). Drowning in Empathy: The Cost of Vicarious Trauma. TEDxSanAntonio [YouTube]. Retrieved July 23, 2023 from https://youtu.be/ZsaorjIo1Yc

4. Ibid.

5. Charles Figley, as cited in Clay, Rebecca (2022 July 11). Are you experiencing compassion fatigue? American Psychological Association. Retrieved July 23, 2023 from https://www.apa.org/topics/covid-19/compassion-fat…

6. Cunningham, Amy (2016). Drowning in Empathy: The Cost of Vicarious Trauma. TEDxSanAntonio [YouTube]. Retrieved July 23, 2023 from https://youtu.be/ZsaorjIo1Yc

7. Stowen, Debbie. (2020 November). Moving from compassion fatigue to compassion resilience. Part 4: Signs and consequences of compassion fatigue. The Canadian Veterinary Journal. Retrieved July 23, 2023 from https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC75607….

8. Kamkar, Katy. (2019 May 21). 20 warning signs of compassion fatigue. Canadian Occupational Safety: The Safety Magazine. Retrieved July 23, 2023 from https://www.thesafetymag.com/ca/news/opinion/20-wa…